Bride-to-be slammed for uninviting her sister to wedding and insulting in-laws

A woman has been called out for her behaviour towards her sister and her husband ahead of her wedding.

The woman explained on social media forum, Reddit, that her parents had long since been divorced - and she sided with her dad, whereas her two sisters took her mother's side.

She hadn't attended her sister's wedding, but had invited them to her nuptials. However, she made the decision not to invite her mother.She ended up falling out with her sister due to her mum being cut out, and she uninvited her.

Then, her brother-in-law, that she had never met, phoned her to try and mend the situation. But, this did not go down well.

Writing on Reddit, the woman said: "Never thought I’d be posting this here but me and my fiancé are avid lurkers so i thought this would be a good spot to get a judgement. I have two sisters, my parents are divorced and my dad is remarried.

"When I was 16 my parents split due to my mom having an affair with a friend of mines dad. I was at the age where I could decide who to live with. I choose my dad. My sisters choose to shuffle back and forth.

"Me and my sisters have never been close afterwards. I have not spoken to my mum since I graduated back in 2014 and my sisters have been bitching about it since. My sisters don’t like my step mum while I love her, so they don’t come to my dads much which we are both fine with. I don’t speak to them unless necessary around the holidays.

"I did not attend my older sisters wedding due to the tension so I’ve never met her husband. I’m currently engaged and our wedding is in December. I planned to invite both my sisters for the sake of my fiancé who wanted them there.

"My younger sister isn’t coming because I did not invite my mum and instead have my step mum involved and I’m happy with that.

"My older sister pretends to be this big family person on social media so I think for appearances she was going to come. After I sent the invite she called and said it wasn’t right to phase our mum out considering her side of the family will be there.

"I said I didn’t ask her advice on the guest list. She said in solidarity with our other sister and our mother she isn’t coming. I said great. That was a month ago.

The woman continued: "Last week I got a call from a random number who ended up being my brother-in-law saying he spoke with my sister and she wanted to come. I said that isn’t what she said originally. He said she was trying to force something and that was wrong and she wanted to attend. I said it was too late as the offer had been rescinded.

"He said that family was important and it would be a good step. I asked who the hell he even was… as I’ve never even met him. He said my sister is too proud to call so he did it for her. I said it was too bad her ego was that big that she’d allow her husband do her dirty work so there was no invite.

"I pretty much told the guy that family wasn’t that important given I don’t even know who he is and that his wife tried to threaten me, so I was done with it. He said a few other things about family and I just laughed at him telling him I don’t even know him, they obviously want a free dinner and he should get his b**** back from my sister.

"My fiancé heard most of the conversation and said I was being an an a****** to him, even if my sister was toxic. I told her that the asshole thing is to call on your wife’s behalf about an issue that doesn’t concern you. And to threaten your sibling with s*** to get them to do what you want. So I was just retuning it. Am I the a******?"

People slammed the woman for her behaviour, despite agreeing that her sister had been a bit rude during the whole altercation.

One Mumsnet user wrote: "You almost weren’t, but childish insults at the end questioning BIL’s manhood for trying to mend bridges? Come on now. Just tell him, 'My decision is final, please don’t call back.' And hang up.

"Also your sister didn’t threaten you by the description, so no need to be overly dramatic. 'Invite mum or I’ll cause a scene'-a threat. 'Invite mum or I’m not going'-an ultimatum. The difference is one is proposing retaliatory action, the other is them just saying they’ll remove themselves from the situation."

Aldo Pusey

Update: 2024-06-19

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